Mr. Peaches and I moved into our first apartment together after we had been dating only eight or so months. Before that, we had lived in entirely different states, and there was nearly a three-hour drive between our two apartments.
We met at work, you see, a place so vast it allowed you to live in any one of three adjoining states and commute to attend the occasional meeting or event- where we eventually saw one another for the first time. We quickly became close friends, and although we had only been dating a short while, Mr. Peaches and I had known each other for more than two years.
When Mr. Peaches's job, a job I had since quit, required that he move several hours away to a city neither of us had ever wanted to live, we decided to do it together. I would return to school to become a Spanish teacher and he would work. We had just a few days to find an apartment and make it all happen.
We made lists and searched all over our new city for a place in our budget that met our demands: washer/dryer hookups, dishwasher, able to walk to "stuff," and felt like home. But we couldn't find all of those things in one little apartment.
Before we looked at the apartment we would eventually choose, we decided to have dinner at one of the nearby tourist attractions. As we enjoyed our meal, the landlord called and texted more than four or five times to make sure we were still coming and wouldn't be late.
It's true, Dear Reader, that I have many flaws: I am impatient and easily frustrated; I worry too much about stupid things and not enough about important things; I don't always appreciate the world around me; I am so.freaking.clumsy. But I am very prompt and I do not like to be pushed around.
We would look at the apartment, but by the time we left the restaurant we had already decided- out loud- that we would under no circumstances take the place, on account of the absolute ridiculousness and unprofessionalism of the landlord.
Except when he opened the front door we saw this:
I understand it isn't much in a photo, and to be honest maybe it wasn't that much in reality, either; but when Mr. Peaches and I saw this huge living room for the first time it took our breath away. We looked at each other with eyes that said...well, you can figure out what they said. "Does that fireplace work?" I asked, concerned the landlord might say yes. He turned it on. My heart melted.
It got worse. The apartment had a walk-in closet, approximately 4'x6', which I eventually organized to look like this:

Beyond that, the place had a ginormous kitchen and a large bathroom and bedroom. Most importantly, it felt like home.
Even though we had initially decided against it, Mr. Peaches and I could not fight the urge to live in that apartment and we signed a lease the next day. Neither of us had packed a box, and in 36 very short hours, we packed up his apartment, my own, unpacked into the new place, and I was sitting in a classroom listening to a professor lecture. Not something I would recommend.
We did love our apartment, though. The following summer, we even built a huge firepit in our backyard- paid for by the landlord.
We were right about that guy, however. Our landlord was crazy. The apartment and land were not at all maintained, and promises he made to us upon signing the lease had not been kept. We later learned that he is a sex offender, and this past November he was out of town on a secret "project" for six months. I say secret because he didn't even tell us he wouldn't be available. Oh yeah, and the house was up for foreclosure the entire time we lived there, though we didn't know that until we were a year into the mess. In fact, on our last day there our neighbors told us the house is going up for auction on June 7.
In addition to having problems with the landlord, we also had problems with the area in which we lived. Our grill was stolen, as was my bicycle. Our neighbor's part of the house was broken into. The place never got any direct sunlight, and was very dark, especially in the winter. The walls were very thin- I once heard my upstairs neighbor blow his nose. We lived next door to The Dueling 24-hour Bodegas, trashy little convenience stores that sell alcohol and attract all kinds. We heard gunshots regularly and I called the cops on more than one occasion.
But that apartment is where our relationship took flight. Where we experienced some rocky times, including crippling poverty. Where Mr. Holden got to experience a life absent of transience and hotel stays (thanks to that job I was talking about, not my hooking). Where my two fellas became friends. Where we became a family.
Last week we went to clean up the place so we could get our entire security deposit back. When it was all said and done, we spent time talking about our favorite memories there, the difficult times, and I cried as we danced in the living room. And when Mr. Peaches and I looked into that apartment for the very last time it still took our breath away.