Since moving to our new, less cold city, Mr. Peaches and I have begun to take on meeting new friends (though our existing network of friends is excellent and we love them all) so we can broaden our horizons a bit and, well, to have more friends. In order to accomplish this, we are officially courting our first couple- "Double Dating," if you will.
Before your mind makes the giant leap to the "Couples Seeking Couples" websites and calling the authorities because people like that should not be teaching our children- Our CHILDREN!, allow me to explain.
Mr. Peaches and I have friends who are part of an established couple of which we know and have spent time with both partners in the couple. However, one partner always has a stronger friendship with either Mr. Peaches or I, which caused the foursome to know one another in the first place.
For instance:
Your gal Peaches becomes good friends with someone from school.
It so happens that the friend is married, or coupled.
In turn, Mr. Peaches and I, since we are coupled, will occasionally spend time with my friend and her partner/husband/whatever term they have applied to themselves.
But here's the kicker-
Mr. Peaches does not have a friendship with the other person in the couple.
Which can end up with them standing around awkwardly while we chat and enjoy ourselves.
(This can easily be said for vice versa as well.)
But this past week, we have started spending time with a new couple as a couple. Mr. Peaches and I met the male partner at a law school orientation months and months ago, and, as of five days ago, we all live in the same, less cold city.
The males in our two couples have been working out the details of our "dates," but their friendship is not very developed, leading to our official courting.
I call it courting because "dating" a couple is weird, weird, weird. It is very much like being single and dating another person in the beginning. You become self conscious about many things you do, say, and wear- you may even bring small gifts like booze. Should we call them or wait until they call us? I don't want to seem overeager. You make your own couple as attractive as possible and I have just been reminded that ending a date is the most awkward thing in the world.
Sorry Mr. Peaches, but when I was dating- say what you will about me, Dear Reader- I would often just kiss my date at the end of the night so that I could skip the whole awkward thing. Shake hands? Hug? Eh, whatever. You never know what the other person is going to do. He sticks his hand out as I go in for the hug or something else, it's always a drag. If I liked the dude even a little he got a kiss- because we could both be on the same page with a kiss...for better or for worse.
But you can't kiss another couple on the mouth.
At least, not if you aren't into that type of thing. At the end of our first date, there were handshakes all around and awkward sputters of "let's do this again," "have you seen that movie?" and "it was really fun." We set up a second date for the next day. "Too soon!" I could hear my inner single girl screaming, trying to give some advice and break out of three years of cobwebs.
Last night, after we watched the movie, there was just a waving goodbye. A forced smile. Awkwardness. All around. He asked what we were doing this weekend, and later on this week. "TOO SOON!" She screamed.
I listened to her this time.
After all, she was pretty good in her old days.
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